Say you were with a company for 15 or 20 years. Another person recently joined the company and was promoted over you, while you are still treated as a new employee. Do you see something wrong with that? So, why do some parents still treat their children as if they have not had their own experiences for, say, 15 or 20 years.
Many parents treat their (15, 17, 20, etc. Year old) children as 1 year olds. Many parents try to use wisdom as a reasoning. But, wisdom is based on experiences. So, why try to encourage a child to have new experiences then treat them as they’ve had no experiences. Then try to make the child try to follow the parent’s experiences. Many times, the parents wouldn’t even re-live their experiences. (A bad experiences doesn’t happen at one choice, but many previous choices.)
Many parents wonder why their children are drawn to other adults. (Back to the first scenario.) Even if the child is 15 or 20 years old, the parents treat them as if they've had no experiences in this world. While other adults recognize their 15 or 20 years of experience. What’s odd, to me, is that many parents drew away from their parents for the same things that they do to their children. Yet, many parents wonder why their child resists. Or, is it the parent resisting? Many parents feel that if they struggled, then everyone must struggle. Unlearn.