Include God in everything. Many people realize that no person and no situation is perfect. Yet, many of us try to get others to mimic imperfection. Many make the mistake of thinking that mistakes that they made, in the past, qualifies them to know the correct way. This is untrue. There are many wrong ways for every right way. Everyone is different, so there is more than one right way. Many mistake judgment with wisdom. Many judge others by the ways they lived their lives. We are all guilty of this, whether we realize it or not. Yet, when we are going through our life's struggles, we don't want anyone else to experience those struggles. (Well, some of us.)
It, almost, seems like many people want you to live like them. Some even get upset when they do not have some of the conclusions from your hard work. When you are working hard, they are doing nothing. They even try to convince you that hard work is pointless. As long as you reap benefits from your hard work, it is not pointless.
It is common for a person to say that they don't understand a person, then try to tell that same person the 'best' way for them to go. This represents arrogance, or does it? (Is the one that gives bad models a fool or the one that reproduces it?) What works for one may not work for another. If you've never been somewhere, how can you direct someone else there? Unlearn.