The Blind Leading The Blind
By CDC reports, which come from census numbers, it looks as though divorce rates for Americans are decreasing. But, so are the marriage rates. While the divorce rate (per 1,000 people) was at 4.0 in 2000 and by 2011 was at 3.6, it's important to note that the marriage rate was 8.2 in 2000 and fell to 6.2 by 2011.
Yet, it is a popular assumption that one's parents can best guide their child's marriage. If this were true, there would be no divorce.
The main reason for second marriages is that people walking down the aisle a second time typically feel their first, failed union, gives them the experience and wisdom to make their second marriage a success. But, statistics show this as a false assumption.
Burzumato and psychiatrist Mark Banschick, author of The Intelligent Divorce, estimate that approximately two-thirds of second marriages end in divorce. Banschick says the divorce rate for third marriages is 73 percent.
The National Opinion Research Council conducted a survey that shows, in 1999, adult children of divorce were only 50% more likely to get divorced than adult children from intact homes … which sounds like good news. However, the bad news is that the survey also found a 26% lower rate of marrying among adult children of divorced parents.
Many parents mean well, but trying to help their child's marriage often destroys it. Everyone is different. The likenesses that one sees, another person disagrees. One's own character plays a big part in their views.
Marriage is moving from a love and prayer agreement to a financial and support agreement.
Matthew 21:12-14 (KJV)
12 And Jesus went into the temple of God, and cast out all them that sold and bought in the temple, and overthrew the tables of the moneychangers, and the seats of them that sold doves,
13 And said unto them, It is written, My house shall be called the house of prayer; but ye have made it a den of thieves.
14 And the blind and the lame came to him in the temple; and he healed them.