In the past, I have questioned the phrase, 'It is better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all.' Through much thought, I feel that I have a better understanding of this phrase. I feel that the true meaning of this phrase is dependant on the particular person's view.
People are beings that make decisions based on comparisons. If we have loved and lost, we have something to compare with 'never have loved'. No matter if the love lost ended good or not. There still is a comparison. If we had never loved, how could we, truthfully, compare the two.
Love lost and never loving, both, have good times. Yet, they both have their bad. It seems that the good times out-weight the bad times when we are, temporarily, experiencing bad times. But, the bad seems to out-weight the good during our good times. So, we see that our comparisons are influenced by our present feelings. No matter how temporary that they may be.
Almost everything starts off good. But, how would you know when it starts turning bad if you've never experienced anything bad. This is why I question those that claim to, constantly, experience the good/sunshine when they really have not experienced stormy weather. They may THINK that they are experiencing sunshine. In reality, they are experiencing the 'quiet' before the storm. Unlearn.